How is the current economic downturn affecting your physical and psychological health? Studies show that recessions are generally good for our physical health and not as good for our psychological health. A good dose of generosity may be all you need to offset that psychological effect.

Physical Health
Christopher Ruhm of the University of North Carolina at Greensboro studied decades of public health data and found that physical health actually improves during an economic downturn, about a half-point decline in the death rate for every point of increase in the unemployment rate. Michael Gerson of the Washington Post makes additional sense of these findings:

During tough economic times, people seem to increase exercise, take fewer car trips, reduce smoking and cook healthier foods at home — choosing to control the remaining things in their lives they are capable of controlling.

Psychological Health
Studies like Ruhms have shown that unemployment can cause a kind of recession flu, a funk that leads to stress smoking, unhealthy comfort foods and that problematic remedy, alcohol. Gerson cites studies that have tied personal financial crises to heart disease, depression and suicide. But he also says,

Without question, the more acute social problems — such as crime, illegitimacy — are concentrated in areas of highest poverty. But sociologists and criminologists have long pondered an apparent paradox. During the Great Depression — with about a quarter of Americans out of work — crime and divorce declined. During the relative prosperity of the 1960s and 1970s, crime rates shot up and families broke down.

Our current recession is generally agreed to have been caused by irresponsible lending (by both lenders and borrowers) which led to price inflation, to greed on the part of business leaders, and to risk-taking to fuel that greed. As we assess and react to this, our economy pulls us back into an examination of our own values, and into a smaller circle of community which may be closer to home and more caring of each other.

The Generosity Offset
If we can realign our moral compasses, we might care more about each other’s well-being. And if we can be more careful in our spending, giving more time and care to our families, neighbors, and assisting others who need it, we may find that we are less affected by the economic situation.

Studies have shown that this generosity makes us happier people. Peter Singer in Newsweek says that,

…the good person is also—typically—a happy person. A survey of 30,000 American households found that those who gave to charity were 43 percent more likely to say they were ‘very happy’ about their lives than those who did not give.

So rather than dwelling in fearful thoughts about your own well-being now and in the future, try:

  • Increasing your exercise by driving less
  • Stop or reduce your smoking and moderate your alcohol consumption
  • Spend more time with people you love, and cook more healthy foods at home
  • Find ways to care for those who are in greater need
  • Continue giving charitably, as much as you can, and give more thoughtfully

These are times of opportunity, when we can realign our values with our lifestyles. Although we know some of the problems are out there, let’s take advantage of an opportunity to improve some problems that may be in our own back yards.

Before giving, the mind of the giver is happy;
while giving, the mind of the giver is made peaceful;
and having given, the mind of the giver is uplifted.
- Buddha

Posted by Mark Ewert, filed under Down Economy, What is Generosity?. Date: March 30, 2009, 9:46 am | No Comments »

23  Mar
GENEROUS RECEIVING

There is no one so poor that he has nothing to give,
and no one so rich that he cannot receive.
Mother Theresa

Giving and receiving are two sides of the same coin; one does not exist without the other. We cannot be a world full of givers if there is no one to accept our gifts. Yet for many people, especially generous people, giving is a wonderful experience and being a recipient is uncomfortable, embarrassing, or even shameful. If you cannot be a recipient, if the experience is so fraught for you that even when you have to endure it, you are taking your mind somewhere else, then how can you really be present with people who you are giving to? Recognize that we all have unfulfilled needs, no matter how subtle. This will help us to have empathy and build solidarity with people who have essential needs. We are joined together in a common neediness, even if the specific needs are different. And as Mother Theresa said, “If you refuse a gift that is offered to you, you deny the joy of the giver.”

As generous people, we need to keep in mind that giving can be potent stuff. It can carry power; in giving we can elevate the recipient, make her or him feel good about themselves, or we put her or him down so that she or he feels like a beggar. In like fashion, if we are a recipient, we may accept a vulnerable position, subject to the inclination of the giver. However, that risk can also bring benefits. A gift well given can carry a special recognition of you as the recipient; what you like, what has meaning for you, what might touch you. Ultimately, entering into the dynamic of giving and receiving with true generosity builds strong bonds of relationship.

Why is it sometimes difficult to accept someone’s generosity? For many people there is shame associated with needing something from someone else. In some cases people feel that they do not deserve the gift or care because of some personal insecurity. Many people do not want to inconvenience anyone else and might feel that they are a burden, even to those who care about them most.

Giving connects two people, the giver and the receiver,
and this connection gives birth to a new sense of belonging.
- Deepak Chopra

It is most important to be aware and conscious when someone is giving you something; that is what I call a generosity in receiving. Really be in the moment, set aside any awkwardness, embarrassment or for that matter entitlement. This person has gone out of their way to give you something, whether it is a chocolate chip cookie, assistance with a household repair job, or significant financial resources. One is expected to be grateful, and you probably are. Really being present in the moment of time where you receive something will open the way for a reaction that will gratify the person who gave you the gift.

So I would advise stopping in the moment, breathing it in to really experience it. Then think of your expressions of thanks as a separate gift, a new gift – related to the gift that you were just given but separate, honoring the person who faces you.

Posted by Mark Ewert, filed under Receiving, What is Generosity?. Date: March 23, 2009, 3:41 pm | No Comments »

Lewis Hyde

Lewis Hyde

When the gift moves in a circle its motion is beyond the control of the personal ego, and so each bearer must be part of the group and each donation is an act of social faith.
- Lewis Hyde

Have you ever heard of a Gift Economy? Many people mistake this for a barter system but the two are quite distinct. A gift economy is actually based on people’s giving valuable goods and services away without any agreement for immediate or future rewards, that is being generous. That sounds audacious, especially in this time when resources seem so scarce for everyone. Actually, this is an ideal time to think about alternate economic patterns, which might be more stable and sustainable than the one we have now.

If you are not familiar with Lewis Hyde and his book The Gift: Imagination and the Erotic Life of Property, it is worth reading. He talks explicitly about gifts, as in things given willingly to someone without payment or presents, and as natural abilities or talents. In connecting these two senses of the word, he writes about gifts in relation to artists and their gifting role in our commodity-based culture.

Hyde distinguishes circular gift giving as a condition where wealth can flow, which creates abundance. Reciprocal giving, or barter, as well as commodity exchange leads to competition and scarcity. He quotes Marshall Sahlins from his book, Modern Capitalist Societies:

The market-industrial system institutes scarcity, in a manner completely unparalleled and to a degree nowhere else approximated. Where production and distribution are arranged through the behavior of prices, and all livelihoods depend on getting and spending, insufficiency of material means becomes the explicit, calculable starting point of all economic activity.

Gift giving on the other hand, can move our contributions beyond self-gratifications or the duet of barter out to contribute to our communities, beyond that to nature, and beyond that even to the mystery (God, spirit of life, whatever you choose to call it).

…so a single act of mine can spread and spread
in widening circles through a nation or humanity.
- William Ellery Channing, 1830

This all still sounds preposterous – stop using money and just go around giving our valuable goods and services away? However it can function, as shown every year at the Burning Man Festival. Burning Man occurs for 8 days every summer in the deep Nevada desert, where there are no natural or man made resources available (aside from solar power); no water, no shelter, no utilities. It started in the desert in 1990 and last year had 49,000 participants, all of whom have to carry in everything they will need for the 8 days, and then carry everything out again (leaving no trace is one if their guiding principles). Aside from a few commodities like ice and fuel, which are allowed to be sold, no cash transactions are permitted and bartering is discouraged. That’s right, they give gifts to each other unconditionally in an effort to realize decommodification, civic responsibility, and communal effort. It may still sounds like something from the ragged fringes of our society, but if 49,000 people can make it work for 8 days in temperatures around 110º F, then is should be easier in more hospitable environments and where more resources are available.

Burning Man, 2008 by Waldemar Horwat

Burning Man, 2008 by Waldemar Horwat

Try moving toward more gift giving and away from buying and selling; it may be part of the solution to the economic mess we are in - permanently! If you are interested in participating in the gift economy, see these 37 suggestions from YES! Magazine.

This posting is dedicated to my generous friend Michael Cohen.

Posted by Mark Ewert, filed under Down Economy, What is Generosity?. Date: March 20, 2009, 9:48 am | 2 Comments »

Dr. Devdutt Pattanaik

Dr. Devdutt Pattanaik

Dr. Devdutt Pattanaik is a writer, illustrator, and mythologist. He has the wonderful title of Chief Belief Officer for the large Indian retail corporation, Future Group. I found him through an article he wrote for The Economic Times about generosity and how it is an essential element of leadership. He gives two illustrations of this, each of which sheds light on the subject of generosity.

The first tale is an ancient one about the throne of a legendary king that is buried in a farmer’s field. A king named Bhoj is one day riding with his men by the field and the farmer shouts at him to stay away. As Bhoj moves off the farmer calls him back cordially and offers hospitality. As the king comes closer the farmer again screams for him to stay away. Pattanaik tells,

Bhoj observed the farmer carefully. He noticed that whenever the farmer was rude, he was standing on the ground. But whenever he was hospitable, he was standing on top of a mound in the middle of the field. Bhoj realized that the farmer’s split personality had something to do with the mound. He immediately ordered his soldiers to dig the mound in the center of the field.

King Vikramaditya

King Vikramaditya

Their digging reveals a golden throne, which Bhoj moves to sit upon. Just as he moves, the throne speaks to him,

‘This is the throne of Vikramaditya, the great. Sit on it only if you are as generous and wise as he was. If not, you will meet your death on the throne.’ The throne then proceeds to tell Bhoj thirty-two stories of Vikramaditya, each extolling a virtue of kingship, the most important virtue being generosity. Thus through these stories, Bhoj learnt what it takes to be a good king.

One might say that Bhoj already demonstrates his kingly abilities both by trying to respond appropriately to a fickle farmer and also through his careful observation, which led him to the throne. It would be interesting to find the one of the 32 actual stories that illustrates the virtue of generosity, but I could not locate it on the web.  It is telling that if you sit on the throne without the correct qualities, generosity being among them, it will be the death of you. Perhaps that is the true moral of the story, that leadership is destructive to the person in the power seat, if she/he is not equipped with the tools to lead well.

Pattanaik then tells a more modern tale about a man named Sunder who gains a promotion to lead a team and then becomes a nasty person. The owner of the company, Kalyansingh talks to him and asks,

‘And how do you plan to get a promotion?’ Sunder replied that it would happen if he did his work diligently and reached his targets. ‘No,’ said Kalyansingh, ‘Absolutely not.’ Sunder did not understand. Kalyansingh explained, ‘If you do your job well, why would I move you out? I will keep you exactly where you are.’ Looking at the bewildered expression on Sunder’s face, Kalyansingh continued, ‘If you nurture someone to take your place, then yes, I may consider promoting you. But you seem to be nurturing no one. You are too busy trying to be boss, trying to dominate people, being rude and obnoxious. That is because you are insecure. So long as you are insecure, you will not let others grow. And as long as those under you do not grow, you will not grow yourself. Or at least, I will not give you another responsibility. You will end up doing the same job forever. Do you want that?’

So, one can gather from these tales that people earn leadership by growing more secure, by nurturing others, and by being generous.  The alternative seems to be professional stagnation or the death-by-throne described in the ancient tale. In this time when so many Americans are focused with anger on the myopia and self-interest of corporate leaders, these tales from India might serve to illuminate a better path.

Posted by Mark Ewert, filed under Business Strategy, Leadership, What is Generosity?. Date: March 17, 2009, 3:42 pm | No Comments »

Photo: Hugo Tavares

Photo: Hugo Tavares

According to the Everyday Yiddish-English-Yiddish Dictionary, Farginen means to wish well; to not begrudge, to not envy; to indulge. In order to indulge and not envy other people, we need to cherish other people’s joys and not focus on our own state; we need to cultivate our generosity. Being present and witnessing another person is an act of generosity, this applies whether they are suffering or jubilant. Sometimes witnessing grief is actually easier for us. As with other practices of generosity, it grows as you use it and you may find that your own bliss increases as a result of creating or witnessing another’s joy. This post has some tips on how to do that.

Yiddish has a very special verb, unknown to most other languages: farginen. It means to open space, to share pleasure; it is the exact opposite of the verb to envy. While envy means disliking or resenting the happiness of others, farginen means making a pact with another individual’s pleasure or happiness.
- Rabbi Nilton Bonder, The Kabbalah of Envy

Rabbi Bonder suggests this practice as a way to grow our own farginen (or as he writes, “our ability to farginen”):

We must first recall from our own experience those moments when we were able to do it (make a pact with another individual’s pleasure or happiness). And if this feeling was sincere, it will certainly have been felt with great happiness, a kind of catharsis. Every time we are able to celebrate someone else’s happiness, we will, by definition, have greater reason to celebrate ourselves. In this way, we can widen our chances for enjoying life, freeing ourselves from the imprisonment of our own luck. Farginen sets up networks of confidence that enrich life.

This practice may seem passive and easy on our part – we do not have to “make” or “donate” anything. But think to yourself: how often am I able to relish in another’s joy or good fortune? It might be worth finding out.

Task:

  • Today, look for someone around that is happy, is celebrating something they have done, or has had something good happen to them.
  • If you go through a whole day and do not see anyone in that state – that might tell you something too! In any case keep an eye out.
  • When you find someone who is expressing happiness, try to notice your first reaction. Whatever it is, do not judge yourself, just notice.
  • Is it tied to that particular person, to what they are happy about, or to what is going on for you at that moment?
  • Let us know what you find out!

I am grateful to the Fetzer Institute’s Campaign for Love and Forgiveness for helping me make the connection between farginen and generosity, and to Humanity Healing Network for this video:

Posted by Mark Ewert, filed under Spirituality, What is Generosity?. Date: March 12, 2009, 9:28 am | No Comments »

Laughter is the shortest distance between two people.
- Victor Borge

According to the Wonder Time parenting blog, a baby’s first laugh in the Navaho tradition is, a sign of joy that signals his desire to join his earth family and community. The Up Your Consciousness Blog states that the baby’s first laugh, marks its birth as a social being for the Navaho.

Whoever is present at the first laugh is considered in some way responsible for that event. That person is not only in charge of arranging the Baby Laughed Ceremony for the child, it is also thought that the infant takes on the qualities of that person.

The A’wee Chi’deedloh (The Baby Laughed Ceremony in Navaho language) is a social event where guests file past the baby with plates full of food. With the help of an adult, the baby then gives a pinch of salt to each plate as a symbolic act of generosity. The salt is meant to rekindle and sustain the goodness in each recipient. It is also considered to kindle the generosity in the baby and be the first in a lifetime of generous acts.

To close the ceremony, at the end of the meal, either the host (who witnessed the first laugh) or a family elder blesses the baby, wishing for a life of generosity and gratitude.

The Up Your Consciousness Blog give these helpful lessons to draw from this ceremony:

  • We’re social beings, thriving mainly in the company and support of others.
  • Generosity is a noble virtue, best instilled from birth.
  • Opportunities to celebrate generosity remind us of and regenerate our goodness.
  • An act of kindness raises the endorphins of not only the receiver, but also of the giver, and of everyone who witnesses it.
  • Genuine, heartfelt laughter is an act of generosity!

The salt of life is selfless service.
- Sri Swami Sivananda, Hindu Spiritual Teacher

Posted by Mark Ewert, filed under Learning with Kids, Receiving, Spirituality, What is Generosity?. Date: March 10, 2009, 2:14 pm | 1 Comment »

From the Von Stroheim film Greed

If your desires be endless, your cares and fears will be so too.
- Thomas Fuller

There has been an enormous amount written recently on, regulation is being tightened in the US to counteract, and people all over the country are angry about - greed. Our whole worldwide financial crisis is being attributed to this one vice. According to the Miriam-Webster Online Dictionary, greed is: a selfish and excessive desire for more of something (as money) than is needed. What fuels greed? When people cannot get enough of something, what does it indicate? I believe that underlying all greed is fear and that the way to address that fear is to 1) acknowledge it, 2) explore it, and 3) act to lessen it. In the case of the fear that leads to greed, the ideal way to lessen it is to act generously. This not only reduces the amount of whatever we are being greedy with, it also teaches that we will have enough; we will be enough. With practice, we can come to believe this is true and have confidence in this truth.

Greed, like the love of comfort, is a kind of fear.
- Cyril Connolly

Dr Richard Chartres, the Bishop of London, in an article on the BBC News website, says,
A financial crisis is not something which can be fixed in a technical way because there is the spiritual dimension of trust and confidence. All financial markets are based on confidence - the root of that word is to have faith together. This speaks specifically to the fact that a lot of our current financial crisis is actually driven by reactions to greed; they are a lack of trust, confidence, and collective faith.

Mona Siddiqui, professor of Islamic Studies at Glasgow University in Scotland, in the same article provides a rational grounding for many of us in the USA: However bad the media tells us the world economy is, for most of us in the developed world we still have a house, a job, and money coming in.  Two decades of easy money has led most of us into thinking that we can have all our fantasies - the big house, the fancy car, exotic holidays and gadgets which get better as they get smaller. Our wants have turned into needs, but we forget the needs of others who never spend, who have nothing. Globalization has given us insight into the lives of different people, but it has failed to make us appreciate that we are all connected.


There is enough on the planet for everyone’s need
but not enough for one man’s greed.
- Mahatma Gandhi

Key Questions:

  • What do you fear in this economic climate? How has that changed how you feel about your life? Your future?
  • When do you feel interconnected in your community, with everyone else on this planet? When do you feel isolated?
  • When do you feel greed? What specific things or experiences do you feel greedy with?
  • Has greed ever caused you to suffer? How did that suffering manifest?
  • Have you ever noticed that you had been greedy about something and you no longer are? To what do you attribute that change?
  • Have you ever had the experience of giving something away and never missing it? Or a feeling that you have gained more than you gave?

How I invest and spend may touch the lives of people in distant places, whose names I’ll never know, whose hopes I never think about.
- Shaunaka Rishi Das of the Oxford Centre for Hindu Studies

Posted by Mark Ewert, filed under Down Economy, Spirituality, What is Generosity?. Date: March 6, 2009, 10:43 am | No Comments »